Nurturing Your Tribe
Strengthening Key Relationships in Your Life
Strengthening Key Relationships in Your Life
I’m so glad to hear that you’ve found others who understand and accept you! What I do know from personal experience is once you initiate relationships, they require a strong commitment of your time and energy. More than anything else in our life, our relationships shape our path and our growth. And because you are so conscientious, you place a high emphasis on the quality of your connections.
I created this program to ask powerful questions about how you are showing up in your relationships and what you are asking of others. Nurturing Your Tribe is a great fit for sensitive people who may be struggling with assertive communication, speaking for your needs, setting healthy boundaries and other key relationship challenges.
We meet weekly to discuss relationship topics relevant to sensitive people; really to all people. We start each session with a moment of quiet, encouraging you to let go of the outer world and concentrate on ‘me time.’ We then review last week’s topic, sharing what’s come up – you will not only learn from your own self-exploration, but also from the experiences of others.
At the end of each call, each participant designs their own ‘action step’- holding yourself accountable to practice relationship skills out in the real world, with your tribe.
Tribal Meeting 1: Relationships as a Growth Experience
We take a moment to glance back at our past relationships to find the ‘lesson’. Accepting that in most cases (as an adult), we choose to engage in relationships and therefore have equal responsibility for the experience. Once we take responsibility, we open ourselves to the learning that has taken place. And most importantly, we have the power to make different choices going forward.
Tribal Meeting 2: Embracing Authenticity & Vulnerability
Although we are all highly sensitive people, we each have a very unique expression. Being sensitive is only one of many aspects of our personalities. True authenticity requires vulnerability; being confident about allowing your unique self to shine out. Decide who is safe to share your vulnerable side. Release concerns about ‘what other people might think’. Learn how to honor others’ authenticity.
Tribal Meeting 3: Speaking Your Truth
Because of our empathy for others, speaking our truth and expressing our needs can be one of the most challenging skills for sensitive people. We can be so deeply tuned in to what other people need, how they feel, and what state they are in, that it is easy to lose sense of ourselves. Learn how to have a ‘needs conversation’ that is both empowering for you and loving to others.
Tribal Meeting 4: Navigating Conflict
Conflict can be one of the most challenging aspects of our relationships. Sometimes we might choose to avoid conflict by staying silent or trying to ‘let it go’. Resentment can build and can amplify the problem over time. Sometimes we might choose to be up in someone’s face, telling them like it is. Emotions escalate and many times we say or do something we regret. In this session, we explore assertive communication, creative conflict solving and being in partnership with others even we when don’t agree.
Tribal Meeting 5: Negotiating Alone Time & Together Time
A push-pull that we constantly feel as sensitive people is how much time to spend with others and how much time to be alone? Regardless of whether you identify as an introvert or extravert, all highly sensitive people need alone time. Just being with our own energy is required for us to recharge and bring our best self back out to the world. However, we also have a strong need to connect and grow closer with our tribe. Gain skills to negotiate the right balance for you.
Tribal Meeting 6: Setting Healthy Boundaries
Anytime we have not spoken up for our needs, resentment slowly begins to build. We might look outside ourselves and blame others. We may even berate ourselves, ‘why didn’t you say anything!’ Speaking your truth takes practice and gets easier with time. Boundaries are vitally important in any healthy relationship, either with yourself and with others.
Tribal Meeting 7: Forgiveness and Compassion
When we have been wronged in a relationship or when we have wronged another; forgiveness may seem elusive. Forgiveness does not mean we believe the behavior was acceptable, but instead we’ve decided to no longer carry the heavy burden of anger, guilt, or shame. We are stepping back into a more objective place – the wisdom perspective, to view the situation as a life lesson. Finding compassion for ourselves and for others by recognizing that everyone did the best they could, with what they knew at the time.
After leading over 30 group programs for highly sensitive people; I’ve witnessed firsthand the amazing connection that happens between participants. The giant sigh of relief when you just put yourself out there, got vulnerable and hear other people affirming they have the same experiences.
You realize, wow I’m not alone!
It is natural to feel nervous as you log on to the first group session, but this quickly fades as I set the tone for our tribe to feel accepted, to share openly and to connect deeply with each other. At the beginning of the program, we develop a set of mutual agreements that clearly express how we will treat and support each other.
We begin the session on a free app for your computer, tablet or phone that features both audio and video; greeting each other face to face fosters deeper connection. As we move into the personal work, I invite you to turn off the video feature to reduce distractions and allow you to focus privately on your own learning and growth. On some days, you may feel like sharing more, on other days less. My responsibility as your coach is to balance the needs of each individual participant and the learning of the whole group.
We are all unique individuals, but as sensitive people we share so many similarities. You will learn as much from this mutual experience as you do through your own self-exploration. Through our supportive groups, you will find your voice, your inner strength, and encourage your fellow ‘tribe’ members to do the same.
Sept. 26 – Nov. 7, 2017 (Enrolling Now)
7 Tuesdays in a row, from 6:30-8PM (CST)
$149.00 (3 monthly payments) or $405.00 paid in full (10% discount)
Clients are enrolled in my coaching programs by application. I ask questions to help you gain clarity about where you are right now and what you want to accomplish through our coaching partnership. Once I receive your application, I follow up within 24 hours to schedule a short phone call to get to know each other and explore if this program is the right fit.
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‘Bevin does an outstanding job as a facilitator for this group and I look forward to more. Great group participation.’
‘Warm, accepting relaxed group. Wide variety of people which always makes for lively, interesting and informative discussions.’
– Villa Ann
‘Bevin, you lead such helpful programs with great information to offer us HSPs! I always look forward to them and what I will take away with me to meditate on and process more deeply. Thank you for sharing this wealth.’
‘I’m enjoying getting to know people and learning more about living well as an HSP.’
‘Awesome! Every person is extremely friendly, and welcoming. I look forward to seeing everyone.’
I am so grateful for the guidance and support of family, friends, teachers, Leadership Team, and colleagues - you all know how much you mean to me.
To Spiritual Arts Institute and The New Message for guiding me back to a strong relationship with God.
To Alan Seale and the Center for Transformational Presence for teaching me the fine art of coaching, leadership and for inspiring me to 'create a world that works.'
To my best friend Francis, whose encouragement led me to discover my life purpose.
To my soulmate Stan, our partnership has changed my life. I look forward to traveling together for many years to come.
To my mother Dove, who from day one has been my greatest advocate.
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A special acknowledgement to Margaret Rode at WebsitesforGood.com whose creative design allows me to share my gifts in the world.