Are You a Highly Sensitive Person?
What is ‘High Sensitivity’, anyway?
Perhaps you are new to ‘Highly Sensitive Person’ (HSP) or its scientific term ‘Sensory Processing Sensitivity’. Or maybe you heard about it some time ago and are interested in reconnecting with that part of yourself. Our trait has been studied for over 30 years, but more recently is receiving world-wide attention.
Dr. Elaine Aron is the leading researcher of what is believed to be a genetically inherited trait. Yes, we are born like this and no, it doesn’t go away. It isn’t a diagnosis, or a problem, or a disorder – you were created exactly as you are meant to be.
If you haven’t already, I encourage you to visit her website and take a quick, online self test. Dr. Aron wrote the original book about the trait, ‘The Highly Sensitive Person’, as well as several other related books and a very informative blog. She recently created a full length documentary movie called ‘Sensitive, The Untold Story’. Following her lead, other researchers, counselors, authors and coaches have produced a TED talk, numerous books, websites, blogs, and variety of private HSP Facebook groups.
The research tells us…
It’s estimated that around 15-20% of humans are born with a brain and central nervous system that are more finely tuned to subtleties in their environment. Each day, all day long, we receive stimuli from our surroundings and sensitive people are like an antennae with a wide open frequency – we see, hear and sense so much more.
Sensitivity is a strength! Many HSPs are unusually talented, intelligent and creative individuals. Some may have been labeled ‘introverted’ or ‘shy’, but these labels are not the same as high sensitivity – about 30% of HSP’s are extroverts. 50% of all sensitive people are men, however our culture often rewards this trait in women and strongly discourages it in males. Sensitive men may find it particularly difficult to find others who understand and appreciate who they are. I have quite a few sensitive, male friends and may I say you are amazing!
Our trait goes all the way back to when we were highly sensitive children. Even then, we could see, hear and sense so much more. Some of us grew up in family environments that supported our sensitivity, but unfortunately many of us did not. So as adults, we may need to reframe past experiences, come into acceptance of who we are and learn to honor our sensitivity as a strength.
Sensitive people share four commonalities:
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Depth of Processing
We process situations and information at a much deeper level, analyzing from a variety of viewpoints and possibilities. HSP’s utilize a ‘Pause to Check’ system, which allows us to stop and consider all angles before proceeding. We generally avoid ‘small talk’, instead preferring to dive into deeper conversations about topics that really matter to us personally or for the betterment of humankind.
We may be easily overwhelmed when in an over-stimulating environment for too long, and can become bombarded by sights, sounds and emotions until we are exhausted. Some sensitive people are triggered by crowds, deadlines, pressure, being the center of attention, bumper to bumper traffic, or other stimuli. What overstimulates you will likely be different than someone else, so knowing your specific ‘triggers’ can help to arrange your life to support your personal needs. HSP’s require more alone time than others to re-charge after stimulating activities.
We feel and connect on a very deep level, especially when those around us are very emotional or are struggling with challenges. We can walk into a room and immediately sense the energy between people without even knowing what just took place. Art, theater, music, and movies allow HSP’s to deeply identify with the characters or the artist’s message. Some HSP’s have chosen to limit their exposure to media that sensationalizes the negative aspects of our society because it is too much to process emotionally.
We exhibit greater depth of senses like sight, touch, smell, taste and sound. One or more of our five senses may be a ‘super sense’. For some of us, certain smells are intolerable, for others a scratchy tag in the back of a shirt must go! Which senses are deeply activated is completely unique to each person. In addition, many HSP’s seem to have a very finely tuned sense of intuition, being naturally able to tap into a deep sense of ‘knowing’. We may not be able to tell you how we know, we just do.
Does this description fit you? The good news is that you are not alone!
Imagine, 1 out of every 5 people you meet is also a highly sensitive person; you’re in good company.
When I first learned about my sensitivity, I founded a local community to connect with other highly sensitive people. After leading over 30 group workshops about our trait, I felt called to create Sensitive Journey coaching experiences to inspire you to honor your unique gifts and talents.
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Acknowledging My Tribe
I am so grateful for the guidance and support of family, friends, teachers, Leadership Team, and colleagues - you all know how much you mean to me.
To Spiritual Arts Institute and The New Message for guiding me back to a strong relationship with God.
To Alan Seale and the Center for Transformational Presence for teaching me the fine art of coaching, leadership and for inspiring me to 'create a world that works.'
To my best friend Francis, whose encouragement led me to discover my life purpose.
To my soulmate Stan, our partnership has changed my life. I look forward to traveling together for many years to come.
To my mother Dove, who from day one has been my greatest advocate.
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